Believe in your f*cking self (even when it’s hard)

I’ve wanted to give up more times than I can count.

Not in a dramatic, “the world is ending” kind of way, but in that quiet, everyday way where you’re just tired. Of trying. Of pushing. Of feeling like nothing’s working. I’ve felt sorry for myself. I’ve let self-doubt spiral me into silence. I’ve told myself stories like “maybe I’m not cut out for this” or “maybe they’re right about me.”

It’s so easy to let limiting beliefs win. To let other people’s opinions define how big you dream or how loud you speak. But here’s the truth I’ve had to learn (and keep relearning): you don’t get the life you want without believing that you can actually have it.

Even on the days you feel like sh*t.
Even when it’s easier to stay in bed.
Even when you don’t feel “inspiring” at all.

Believing in yourself is a daily choice, not a one-time decision. And some days, it’s really hard. But if you want the life you keep imagining in your head, you have to keep showing up for it, even when it’s uncomfortable.

Here are two powerful, real-world ways I get myself into a better mindset when I want to quit:

1. get brutally honest about the story you’re telling yourself
When I’m in a rut, I write down what I think is true:
→ “No one cares about what I’m doing.”
→ “I’m behind.”
→ “I’m not good enough.”

Then I ask myself: Is this helpful? Is this actually true? Or is this fear in a trench coat pretending to be logic?
Most of the time, the story is BS. Once I call it out, I can rewrite it. Try it, it’s like a personal intervention on paper.

2. move, even if it’s small
I don’t mean run a 5k. I mean: get outside, clean your space, take a shower, make your favorite breakfast. Momentum matters. When I physically shift my environment or body, my mind usually follows.
No, it doesn’t fix everything. But it reminds me that I’m not powerless. That I can create change, even if it starts small.

Some days I still don’t want to get up. Some days I’m not the most confident version of myself. But I keep going. And you can too. Because life isn’t about being perfect, it’s about choosing not to give up on yourself, not letting other people bring you down, even when no one’s clapping, even when you’re not in the mood to be motivational.

So yes, believe in your f*cking self.
Especially when it’s hard.
Especially when it’s quiet.
Because that’s when it matters the most. Never give up. Period.