Letting go of what no longer serves you.

Your 30s hit different.

You start craving things you didn’t even think about in your early 20s, like peace, stability, better friends, better food, and a deeper connection with yourself. You start realizing how much noise you’ve tolerated. How many people, habits, and thoughts you’ve kept around simply because you didn’t want to rock the boat.

But here’s the truth: If it’s draining you, it’s not for you.
And letting go isn’t dramatic, it’s growth.

Whether it’s the situationship that’s been stringing you along for way too long, the job that feels like soul dust, the inner critic that’s been living rent-free in your head, or even the group chat that leaves you feeling weirdly off after every message… you’re allowed to outgrow what no longer aligns.

In fact, you’re meant to.

Here’s the mindset shift:

Letting go isn’t losing something. It’s choosing you.

It’s choosing to make space for better. For things that feel reciprocal. For people who clap when you win. For opportunities that don’t leave you second-guessing yourself. For the version of you that actually feels good to be in.

Because holding onto things that no longer serve you?
That’s the real self-abandonment.

3 ways to start letting go (and not feel bad about it):

1. Get radically honest.
Ask yourself: Is this helping me grow, or is it keeping me stuck?
Sometimes we stay attached to patterns because they’re familiar, not because they’re good for us. Getting honest with yourself is the first step to creating change.

2. Set boundaries without guilt.
You don’t have to explain your growth to everyone. You’re allowed to create space without writing a five-paragraph apology text. Boundaries are not walls, they’re bridges to a better version of you.

3. Let it feel uncomfortable.
Letting go is not always graceful. Sometimes it looks like crying in your car, deleting a number, unfollowing someone you still care about, or sitting with silence instead of seeking chaos. But that discomfort? It’s where your power builds.

You’re not too much for wanting more.
You’re not behind for pivoting in your 30s.
You’re not selfish for choosing peace.

You’re just growing into the version of you who knows her worth, and refuses to shrink to fit where she no longer belongs.

And that version of you?
She’s not afraid to let go anymore.